Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Our Trip Home

Saturday, Aug. 7, 2010, was our departure day... It was a VERY sad day for us. How could a little tiny human being steal your heart in just a few days. Who ever said, "Parting is Such Sweet Sorrow"? There is nothing sweet about it!!! We were heart broken.



We all piled into the van and pulled away as we watched Paul and Grace and that beautiful little baby left there, on the porch... It was a painful sight. We drove away with tears running down our faces and talking about what a wonder miracle had been added to our family. I think Papa Colin took it the hardest... Zoe has her Papa wrapped around her little finger already... He's such a softy.


We stopped for the night, in Idaho Falls, ID. We were debating whether or not to stop, or go on to Pocatello but while driving we saw a billboard for a motel just ahead that we thought was too good to pass up. We stopped and checked in and took grandma to get a bite to eat and the kids checked out some of the motel. Later we ordered pizza for them.



Some time in the night, Grandma had a real bad pain in her back. Sara was quite concerned but Grandma said she was fine. The next morning she was in terrible pain up into her chest. Grandma doesn't usually complain about pain, so when she was searching for pain medication I became a little concerned. Colin and the kids got the van packed while Grandma rested. Finally we were on our way. 30 minutes down the road I turned to look at Grandma, to ask how she was doing... I didn't have to ask... She looked awful, her face was pale and her eyes were red. Colin and I decided to find the nearest Hospital. 50 miles south of Idaho Falls is Pocatello, mine and Sara's birth place. We looked for the hospital signs and ended up at the Portneuf Medical Center. When we got there, Grandma was in so much pain she couldn't move. There was an emt walking through the parking lot and I ran and grabbed her and told her the situation... She ran in and got a wheelchair and Colin picked up Grandma, out of the van, and put her in the chair and they wheeled her straight into the ER. After some time in the ER, the doctor showed Colin and I her x rays... He was concerned about her back--that one of her discs was degenerated and might be pinching nerves. That was the last we heard of that, because after they transferred her to another floor all the doctors up there wanted to do was look for heart problems. They admitted her, and Colin, the kids and I got a room at the Holiday Inn Express... CJ gave us a fantastic deal after he heard our story... We were tired and I was a little emotional and just needed some rest... He didn't even charge us a pet fee for Duke... What a guy! Thanks CJ.

The next morning Grandma decided she did not want to stay in that hospital another day... She wanted to get home to her own doctors and her own hospital... Portneuf wouldn't even serve her coffee for breakfast! It was up to Colin and I to get her out of there and get her home. The staff talked to us and tried to make us stay (That's their job)... One nurse even gave Grandma the 3rd degree, when we were not around, telling her what an awful choice she was making, leaving, against doctor's orders. She had her mind made up though and that was that! They had her sign all the papers, to release her against medical advice, but they insisted she be on oxygen. They dragged their feet all day "trying" to arrange for oxygen (maybe hoping we would change our mind). Grandma was very impatient and wanting to leave... Finally around 4:30pm I talked to the case worker that was trying to arrange for the portable oxygen. I asked him, "What time does your oxygen supplier's store close?" He said, "5:00pm". I said, "I'm telling you, right now... This woman is leaving this hospital at 5:00pm with or without oxygen!" What do you know? The oxygen man met us in the hospital parking lot and we were on our way... Yes, we were on our way, but without any pain meds for the trip. They refused to give us anything but two Tylenol, because we left against their orders. I felt awful for her... We sent out messages to friends and family to please pray... God really helped Grandma the next two days. It was a miracle. She was uncomfortable but she was not in the excruciating pain she had been in.

We stayed in Lehi, Utah Monday night (Aug. 9). The next morning Grandma couldn't get out of bed. Sara called me and I went right across the hall to their room and lifted her out of bed... We all got dressed and packed up and loaded into the van for the rest of the trip home. After getting up and around Grandma was doing ok... God was helping again... Later on, when we stopped to eat lunch, at Wendy's, we had a discussion... It was a little heated :-) Grandma insisted that she wanted to go home. She did not want to go to the hospital. She wanted her own house and her own bed. Being just as stubborn as she is, I insisted that she go to the hospital as soon as we got home... We argued, while the rest of the family stared in silence. Grandma then informed me that while she was in her right mind, she could make her own decisions... She was right, and there was no more to be said.

We stopped in Flagstaff around 5:00pm to have supper, at the Sizzler, then on to home. We arrived at Grandma's at 8:45 pm Tuesday (Aug. 10). We were unloading her stuff and getting her settled in when she started to sit down on her bed and she cried out in pain and said maybe she should go to the hospital. Colin took the kids on home and had them unpack the van. I stayed with Grandma, to help her get her stuff together that she wanted to take with her. While we were doing this, the oddest thing happened... Her Lifeline beeped and said it was time to check in, it told us to push the button, so we did... The operator asked if we had an emergency and I said, "As a matter of fact, we do"... I told her what was going on and they sent an ambulance right away. I locked up the house and drove her van to the hospital, where Colin met up with us.

They did all of their own tests and x rays and found a compression fracture in her back... They admitted her and began the process of getting it operated on. Who knows how long it would have been in the other hospital for them to give up on the heart issue and deal with the REAL problem. The operation was scheduled for Friday, Aug. 13. The day of the operation she had an allergic reaction to something and her tongue swelled up and the swelling started down her throat... The operation was postponed to get the swelling under control. By Saturday she was doing better after being on the allergy meds that made her a little loopy... We (Colin, his folks and I) had some laughs, at her expense, and we shared them with her when she was back to normal. She went through surgery on Saturday afternoon and it was a success. Sunday morning she had another reaction and her face swelled up this time... Again it was all taken care of with the same allergy meds...

Tuesday (Aug. 17) we finally brought her to her home. She was very glad to sleep in her own bed. The girls and I stayed with her the first two nights and the boys came and stayed during the day. As of right now, she is getting stronger everyday with the help of the kids taking care of her. I have made the statement, "I have the best kids on the planet"... I mean it with all of my heart. I know that parents should always feel that way about their kids, BUT I really do! How many teenagers would voluntarily give up teenage lives to become a caregiver for their great grandma and not complain, but love the chance to be with her??? I am truly grateful for the wonderful kids God has placed in our lives. And appreciate the ministry they are fulfilling at this very moment... God is preparing them for His work that they will embark on very soon.

The kids continue to take shifts at Grandma's house... The girls and sometimes Tommy, stay at night and get up and make sure she gets her breakfast and does her exercises and then the boys stay the day with her and fix her lunch and take care of whatever else she may need during the day. I go over in the evenings and take her some dinner and drop off the girls.

So, here we are... Up to date. What a summer it has been. We have many memories of the summer of 2010. God is good to us. We are so thankful for the time we have had to spend with family and friends... Now we are back home, trying to get back into the swing of things... It's just a different swing now...

Friday, August 20, 2010

Day 12 - 31 July 19 - Aug. 7, 2010

We left the McLeod home, in Burlington, Washington and headed toward MT... We were anxious to get there to see Paul, Grace and baby Zoe... And were hoping to get there before she was born. We stopped in Ellensburg for fuel and snacks....
Before reaching Ellensburg we had to go over Snoqualmie Pass... "My favorite Pass in the whole world!" Those who know my history involving this pass know that is far from a true statement. Imagine this road covered in snow, a 7 year old girl screaming in terror because we might slide under the semi truck in front of us and die, then two older sisters trying to calm her down. Imagine those two oldest sisters maybe throwing her on the floor and holding her there so she couldn't see... Maybe slapping her around and saying, "Shut up!!!"... Maybe something like that...
I had forgotten how breathtaking the Northwest is... I'm glad I was able to cross this pass again and take in the beauty of this place. I now have much fonder memories... It is gorgeous.
These pictures cannot even do justice to the beauty...
Stopping, just over the border, at a rest area..
My home state.
Some were glad to get out of the van...
Even for just a few minutes.
Duke enjoyed the rest stop as well.


Grandma wanted to check out the "resting" rocks too...

The Shuler Gang... And Grandma.
We traveled all day and into the night, determined to make it to Havre, Montana in one day. We arrived around 1 am and Paul and Grace were waiting up for us. We were so glad to be there and we were sooo glad that baby Zoe had not been born yet. Grace had been on bed rest for three weeks, to keep her from going into labor. Now that we were there, she was ready to get the show on the road... But not then, we needed sleep. We stayed up and talked for a couple hours then headed to bed.
We visited, shopped, walked, cleaned and played for the next 5 days and no baby. Saturday, July 24th came and Grace went in... Her water was broke at 2:20pm. The whole family eventually made their way to the hospital... There were 13 altogether. Grandma stayed at Grace's house, she wasn't interested in the action before the birth... She'd just wait until the baby was here and join in.

The hospital waiting room became the "game" room.
Although Tommy told me it felt like a prison,
since he could not leave.
Internet time... You do what you have to
when Internet is not available, away from home.
Jacob, being his normal self... Goofy!
The "labor" walk...
With the grandparents...
The anxious Aunts...

I had a picture of Grace in labor, but I thought she might shoot me if I posted it... She did real well. She was a trooper... Of course she has the "Wilda" glare down to a tee when she's in extreme pain I would be dead, if looks could kill, and so would a few others, Paul included. She did hit Paul once... She raised her voice at me telling me she WAS NOT tense, when in fact she was :-) but she was polite at the same time as she was snapping at us, she would say, "please" and "thank you". The nurses were in awe... They could not believe a young lady, in this day and age, would have a baby, completely natural. Grace refused all pain killers and she was amazing. She is WOMAN, hear her ROAR!!! Finally at 2:29am, Sunday morning, Zoe entered this world... A perfect little baby girl. 7lbs 1 oz and 19 1/2" of God's amazing little bundle given to Paul and Grace. She is so perfect and so gorgeous... She looks just like her mommy.
The proud daddy.
There is nothing in this world that can match
the feeling of holding your new little baby...
How can I be a Grandma? How did this happen? Life
goes by so fast... It doesn't seem like it was that long
ago that I was holding Grace... Now she has a baby
of her own. I'm gonna love being a Grandma.
A VERY proud Grandpa. Zoe had him wrapped
around her little finger the moment she arrived.
Uncle Jake...
Uncle Philip...
Aunt Sara...
Aunt Megan...
Uncle Tom...

We left the hospital around 3 - 4am and headed back to the house to get some sleep and let Grandma Bunny know that the baby had arrived with no complications. We slept a few hours and headed back to the hospital, with Grandma, so she could meet the new baby.
Grace looked great... She was ready to go home.

Grandma Bunny and Zoe...
This was taken about 8 hours after being born.
Her first outfit, to be worn. Isn't she a doll?

The nurses and doctor could not believe that Grace was ready to go home so soon. They wanted her to stay another night. The doctor asked her why she wanted to go home so soon... Grace told him she wanted to sleep in her own bed and that she had family from out of town... He thought that was a good enough reason. The nurse, on the other hand, did not think it was a good idea... She was concerned about ALL of those people in Grace's home. Little did she realize that we have had some experience in taking care of newborns and taking care of the mommy too. When she came home Zoe was held by everyone, nonstop. We couldn't get enough of her.

While in Havre, we were able to attend Church services with
Paul and Grace. This night was a Singspiration... Colin,
Jacob and Philip helped Paul out with musical accompaniment.


We had to have some pizza... Pizza Pro has the
best pizza in town... And you can play pool too.
I was trying to show them how it's done...
But I stink!



Meet Zoe Isabella...
Zoe and Mommy

Zoe's baby shower...

Four generations in this picture...
Grace was hoping Grandma Bobbie
would be able to come too, but they had other
travel plans....

The silly girls....
I have to tell you a little story, going along with the previous picture. The girls had been dancing around in the living room... Then Tiny Tom (Mandie's son) decided to dance along. He was dancing and having a good time. Some pencil drawings on the wall were noticed and Mandie knew who the artist was, so she grabbed Tiny Tom to show him that was wrong... As she picked him up, he never missed a beat... He was still flailing his arms and legs and saying, "I'm dancing , Mom"... It was so funny, seeing him dancing while she was being carried off to... Well... You know...
Nap time with Aunt Sara...
Colin trying out the Rip Stick...


Zoe, on dedication day... Aug. 1, 2010
We are so blessed to have Zoe in the Alexander/Shuler
family... It is now time to dedicate her to the Lord...

Parents and Grand Parents
The whole family...

Grandma Shu and Zoe... She was sun bathing...



Megan was able to celebrate her 13th birthday in MT.
Aug. 4th... We went to the lake and had a pic nic
and some did a little fishing...
Megan fishing, with Jim Alexander looking on...
Then we went back to Kirby and Nancy's for
cake and ice cream...
And gifts...



Getting ready for her first bath... Poor baby...
No privacy in this family...
I won't post pictures of the bath...

Duke decided that the bottom of the coffee
table was a great place to rest.

Watching something scary...
Finally the time came, that were all dreading...
The day we had to leave. Everyone had to say
goodbye to this little one that had stolen
all of our hearts...





Parting is such sweet sorrow... Bologna!!!
There is nothing sweet about it!!!

Papa took it real hard...
Grandma Bunny had to have her turn...
We hated to leave Paul and Grace and this tiny little human that we all fell deeply in love with. we all cried... The van was quiet for a while except for the sniffles that could be heard. Then we bagen to look to the future of the next time we will get to see tham all again.
And now begins the journey back to AZ... And it was a doozy... Stay tuned...